(This blogger has applied some impressive logic to the theory of narcissism.)--- From my perspective, there are always two sides to every story in a marriage. It takes two. It's a balancing act. When balance is lost, someone may fall. It's a matter of fact... It's important to understand that facts outweigh facts. The scale will tip in someone's favor. The spouse with the greater weight of facts rarely falls. I hope this helps my wife understand who fell and appeases her bitterness.