Maybe there was a reason, beyond what they could do differently at the time. Maybe it hurt them just much or more to do what they did. Maybe that's what hurts them to know that you still love them just as much now.
I want him to look at me and realize I may not be waiting for him to make up his mind forever. I want him to be scared that I will get tired and leave. I want him to make a move. I want him to at least acknowledge his feelings, or even lack thereof.