"Whenever I have a problem, I sing. Then I realize that my voice is a lot worse than my problem".It doesn't matter, just sing, at least you're thinking about something other than your problem, if only for a minute or so!
Tormenting ourselves is wrong. When someone cares for us they will do whatever it takes to help, they'll cross oceans for you because you need them to. sometimes we don't realize that or understand the reasons but in time the truth will reveal itself