I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand. Although as an author I am responsible for making readers understand--a reader who doesn't understand is an unhappy reader. (And there is some value to leaving some questions unanswered.
I agree. The things I can't change sometimes do change me because I learn to "live life on life's terms." I am open to learning patience and courage, among other things, from the things I cannot change.