If it's not making you better, it isn't love. True love makes you more of who you are, not less. - Mandy Hale (If thats the case i think i must only be capable of 'loving' myself. I always lose who i am in the place of girlfriend or lover.
I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand. Although as an author I am responsible for making readers understand--a reader who doesn't understand is an unhappy reader. (And there is some value to leaving some questions unanswered.